Sunday, 11 January 2009
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Christians should talk about sex more, why not...I don't but wish I knew why
SEX,
One of the many gifts God has given mankind.
I have never had sex before,
had my chances, but still I am waiting till I get married.
Won't that seem awkward? Will you know what to do? What if your wife's not a virgin?
Yes, I've heard it all, but still I am convinced this is best for me.
Is it in the Bible? Is that why you're waiting?
I think people assume that it is in the Bible -- Thou shalt not have sex before marriage
Yet it's not in the Bible!
The construct of marriage is not a new one, but it's not how it was in the Bible.
A man would leave his parents and take a woman to be his wife and they'd start a family of their own.
There wasn't the dating time, engagement time and then time-for-the-wedding time.
It is for me from a personal standpoint that I am saving sex for marriage,
it's not religious views,
it's not because I am a Christian,
it is for me and my future wife, my virginity will be taken (oh, I shan't put up a fight
) by her.Christians kind of have it in their mind that sex is dirty. Yes, sex has been perverted by advertisements, pornography, etc. But its truest essence sex is not dirty, and so when sex is done right...why do they shudder and blush? Not all Christians mind you, but there are some that kind of have a well we don't talk about THAT in proper company attitude about sex...it puzzles and saddens me.
Here's one that might stir some thoughts: Is any form of sex BAD between a husband and a wife?
No, I believe all forms of sex/positions/props/etc is permissible, as long as both husband and wife are fine with it. Personally in my married years I am willing to try anything sexual, as long as my wife's sexual bed is mine and mine her's, no 3somes or swinging couples, I want my sex to be for her and her alone.
:::to be continued:::
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Comments (4)
I like how you point out that it is not in the bible. Most people do assume that it's the 11th commandment or something. And it really is better to hold out for one person, helps prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDs.
props for the post- (but I might mention that there were weddings and engagements)
It's in the Bible, it's part of not committing adultery. But I agree with your reasons, that it isn't about doing it because you were told to, but doing it because you trust that that is the best way for it to be done. Surely the one who made sex knows how it's to be handled!
I saw that you commented 'blurMARYAGNOSIA' which is my old blog. I made a new one some time ago. You asked me why I'm a virgin and if I'm saving myself until marriage or just waiting.
Honestly... I don't really know what I'm waiting for. I am a teenager and I have had my experiences. I am far from innocent. I have had sexual experiences, but I have not had vaginal intercourse, so I still consider myself a virgin. I smoke. I drink. I have experimented with a few drugs even. But sex is the one thing I am conservative about (I'm not a liberal... but you know what I mean). I think what has kept me from doing it is my fear of getting hurt. What perpetuates my abstinence now is just... I'm waiting for when I feel it's right. I don't want to disappoint God. I don't want to give myself away to just anyone. I want it to be with someone I love and with someone who loves me. When I just feel it's right, I'll know, and if it's when I'm married, then so be it. If it's earlier, then cool.
I am 17 years old. I am surrounded by people who have sex. I have been in a relationship for 8 months now, but I'm still waiting. When it's right I'll know. That's what I believe.